Daughter misses her parents’ early landing text due to her muted group chats, arriving 30 minutes late for airport pick-up, but refuses to apologize after they explode at her in anger: 'I'm telling you straight to your face how irresponsible you are'

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    Senior couple at the airport
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    AITA for picking my parents up late from the airport

    Throwaway because people know I'm on here. My parents asked me to fetch them at the airport as per usual.
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    They are both semi-retired and travel monthly either for business or for pleasure, so this favor is not new to me.
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    They don't want me to waste money on parking at the airport, so what we have been doing for years is they message me for updates ("we have boarded the plane", "we have landed" etc) so that we estimate what time I have to leave.
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    Since I am about 30mins away from the airport, I am usually asked to leave the house at the same time they arrive.
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    This gives them time to leave the plane, get their baggage, etc. At around 12:30nn, they informed me that their flight is "on time", and their arrival is 15:25.
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    I was already ready to leave by 14:00, and was having a mid-afternoon snack at 14:30 while waiting for updates.
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    Apparently, they sent a message to the family group chat that their plane landed at 14:45; more than 30 mins past (edit: earlier than) their arrival time.
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    Since ALL my group chats are on mute (work-related groups are also on that phone), I do not get notifications unless I am tagged/mentioned, so I did not see their message.
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    I decided to check my phone at around 15:20 since it was close to their arrival time, and saw their messages.
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    I gathered my things was was already walking to the door when my mom called and asked me where I was.
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    Distressed woman on the phone, sitting by the Christmas tree
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    I told her that I was leaving and said, "Huh? Why just now?" I told her that I didn't get a notification since I wasn't tagged, and she ended the call.
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    I got to the airport at 15:53, and honestly, I didn't think it was a big deal, but apparently they were stewing in their anger on my drive to the airport.
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    When they got inside the car with my father in the passenger seat, he started SHOUTING at me.
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    Like no holds barred, voice at maximum level, and shouting at me about being completely irresponsible.
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    Telling me things like "yes, I am telling you straight to your face how absolutely irresponsible you are!" and not giving me a chance to explain myself.
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    We have not talked since I dropped them off. They have defended themselves to my siblings intensely.
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    I can acknowledge that maybe I should have checked the group chat more frequently, but I do not believe their reaction was warranted.
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    Frustrated senior driver
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    I disagree that their reaction was proportionate to my "sin". AITA for refusing to apologize?
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    OldBoyShenanigans His behaviour is completely unacceptable and ungrateful. Just out of interest (I couldn't keep up with all your times), how long were they waiting?
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    OP rant-ifying Their plane landed at 14:45 according to their message; I got to the airport at 15:52, so a little over an hour since arrival. But I believe they just got their bags at around 15:22, so 20mins since baggage claim.
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    Usernamechecksout978 NTA - Mistakes happen and your father seems unhinged. How was your childhood?
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    bob_1k999 NTA. I've had my fair share of messups and being yelled at for them and this is out of proportion. You were like an hour "late". Who can't spend an hour at the airport?? They should've dm- ed you if there was any change. And even if they did and you didn't see it, it's not that big a deal if you don't usually do that.
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    OP rant-ifying NEVER. I've even needed to drive slowwwwly because I left too early. Meanwhile, they have fetched me at the airport twice - and both times 30 minutes late. It's why I don't understand why they think their anger is justified.
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    tpel1tuvok Hard to believe you are genuinely confused about this.
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    OP rant-ifying To be honest, I only started questioning myself when my sister started defending my dad.

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